Jessica and Ann talks about how piercings transformed them as a person
Jessica: Right? And I was like, okay, but I'm a person and I really like sparkly things and I love tattoos and I think art is beautiful and I want my hair to be hot pink and all that stuff and once you make one little change for yourself where you're like this is my body, this is my choice and it's that very like I'm brave and I did this and I am me now and you do care less about what people have to say because that joy of being you feel so much more than any negative. It goes over any negative comment you could get.
Ann: Exactly and that's what I learned too because I just remember getting my piercings done and just looking in the mirror constantly just being so giddy and overjoyed like wanting to take pictures, wanting to show them off and yeah, now surprisingly, I don't get a lot of negative comments usually from older folk about---or I just get kind of just weird like well, you have a lot of holes. I'm like, Okay.
Jessica: Yeah, okay.
Ann: Everyone say that, but usually, from people more of my age, I get a lot more accepting, compliments and so it is nice to hear those of course and then talk with people about what they plan on doing and what they like but again, back to what I said. At the end of the day, it's what you feel, it's what you think and if it makes you happy and more like yourself then that kind of what you said it--- it just goes over all the negative and because again, it's not for them so-
Ann: Nothing to do with them.
Jessica: Exactly! Which is funny because I think that's the connotation that a lot of people think is that you get tattoos so that people look at you and think you're unique, but you're just tattooed like everyone else. That's a common I've heard before and I'm like, I don't care about anyone else. I didn't get it to be unique, I got it to be me. I happen to be a unique person.
Jessica: Yeah, I love what you said that whether it's good or bad in someone's eyes, it's for you at the end of the day, it doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks. Yeah, it's a really powerful truth to be able to own.
Ann: Exactly and I think that with stuff like this with body modification, there's still a little stigma attached to it. Thankfully, not as much but maybe I can't say as much because I'm not heavily modified and I haven't been in this scene for a very long time so obviously, people with a lot more piercings and tattoos and are have been around for a lot longer then and probably face more but kind of what I'm just tired of hearing just from my own experience, especially with my nose piercings is, oh, well, guys won't find that attractive. I'm like, Oh [inaudible 27:05-27:10]
Jessica: Yes. I also heard that before. I am like, Okay.
Ann: Guys won't find that attractive or Oh, you won't get a guy from that or if you start seeing a guy, he won't like them I am like okay, but what makes you think that I like him back?
Jessica: Exactly! Such a good question like okay, but then also I'm like, oh no does my husband know that he's not supposed to like me?
Ann: Okay so someone told me not told them like-
Jessica: Don't tell him like-
Ann: Keep it a secret!
Jessica: Keep it a secret like what---Oh yeah, people just say I am like, Okay,
Ann: If anything is going to attract the people that I do want to be around because they're going to be like hey stick piercing, look at mine like, you know?
Jessica: Right? They're gonna like you for you, not [inaudible 28:08] of you.
Ann: Well yeah! When you meet someone else with piercings, you already know a little about them so then people are more willing to talk to you and be like, Oh hey, I like this or Hey, I've been thinking about getting this like what's your experience or what do you think? It is nice because the people kind of feel comfortable with you-
Ann: Like asking questions and so honestly, I've actually had some pretty good experiences, talking and meeting with new people who are curious, so-
Ann: Anything. I'm meeting more people,
Jessica: Yeah, I know. It's very true. Having a lot of visible tattoos, I have a full sleeve and stuff. What I found is interesting as before that, I was more reserved but now that I literally wear my heart on my sleeve. It's a personal tattoo to me and it's like wearing your secret's out for the open. It's in turn, made me more open as well, which I've seen a lot in the modified world is people-you do-you wear your hearts on your sleeves, on your ears. It's their sparkly battle scars essentially and it does lead to, for the most part, a more caring and nurturing environment, which is the polar opposite of what you would think.
Ann: Exactly! And I always hear people saying at first, I was always afraid to go into a proper piercing or tattoo studio because I was afraid that Oh, I don't fit the look. I have blonde hair. I'm not tattoed, I'm not pierced, I'm not wearing punk rock clothes. I'm like, they're just gonna laugh at me and tell me to go to Hollister-that and so and I thought very, very wrong and so that was my bad. Because at first, I was just like, ooh, I think that style is really cool but what if I'm not really accepted but every shop I've been into has been really accepting. I've heard this from other people will say that some of the nicest people that they've met have been tattooed out and pierced and it because it's such kind of a welcoming and it's very welcoming and people feel safe and like that they have friends so thankfully, I was very very wrong and I felt really bad. I'm just like, Oh my gosh, they're all so nice here, they don't care that I don't look like them and they're so willing to help and they're so nice. If anyone is afraid to get their first piercing at a proper studio, don't be afraid, because a good and reputable shop will be very welcoming and very accommodating so-
Jessica: Yeah, I agree! I felt the same way even before I started working at one, as I started getting a little bit more pierced, I was always like, Oh, I don't belong here. I couldn't even go in Zumiez, I felt it was too hardcore for me. I go in, I wouldn't make eye contact with the jewelry cases.
Ann: I'm not worthy.
Jessica: I'm not worthy of this deal, jewelry.
Ann: No, I've been there. I'm just like, oh god, they're gonna know, I'm not one of them.
Jessica: I know but no one cares.
Ann: No one cares.
Jessica: And it's funny because then, on the other side of the counter, I felt the same way, which is funny, and I hope for anyone listening who's afraid to go to a tattoo shop, but get some hope knowing that maybe the person on the counter also felt once that they couldn't go into the store.
Ann: Yeah, don't be afraid. A good shop will not care what you look like, they will help you and don't be afraid.
Jessica: Don't be afraid. Before I let you enjoy the rest of this cloudy Oregon day. Is there any advice you have for any of our listeners?