Jessica and Sammie talk about how they confide to their sisters about their piercings
Sammie: They can just only hope that I have less, but it's never gonna happen. I also have a stepsister, and she's amazing. We've shopped at your guys’ shop before together, and she also is a big inspo because when she was 19, I was like, in sixth grade and seeing her with all these cool hair colors, and piercings. I was like, yes, and we just became buddies because she had my back. She's like, again, another one? And I'm like, Yeah, she's like, you're a mom, though and I'm like, Oh, dude, don't remind me, so it is really fun though because she keep my little secret and then she asked me without me get thanksgiving, and I'm like, Andrea I am never telling you anything again. She's like, I thought they knew, and I'm like, Oh my God.
Jessica: I had a similar experience with my sister. She's younger than me. I grew up similar to you, my parents are more conservative and I am covered in tattoos and piercings, so it's like you're a good confider but when you tell your mom that you got your navel pierced, she's gonna be like, that's gonna rip out. Why would you do that? So I would tell my sister. I'm like, don't tell mom but I did this. Like when I got my tongue pierced, I called her and FaceTime her through the whole procedure, and then she tells mom, and then my mom called me right afterwards. And you have your tongue piercing, you know? It swells and I have two. So I got two at the same time so I couldn't even fit my tongue in my mouth and my mom calls. I am like trying to like mumble to my sister, and my sister's like don't answer and then she goes, mom calling me now. So now my mom's on. She knows.
Sammie: That's how it goes between...that's how it goes in our family. My mom is so weird like that like, that's how it goes but here's the deal, when my sister tells me stuff, don't leave or when I told her stuff.
Sammie: It's everywhere and I mean, I love my sister and everything. God bless her heart and everything but god damn, she's so I can't with her.
Jessica: It might be an older sister thing because it's similar for me and my sister. I'm older, so I have a harder time keeping her secrets but she always keeps mine.
Sammie: That's how it'd be though. I mean, it's whatever though but my sister, she's very different than I. She's way more like my mom; she's very conservative. It's really sad to see how conservative she is, but that's who she is and she also hates my hair like my mom does. She doesn't really care for tattoos unless its of her. She's very like that and she doesn't want my piercings either. Every now and then she'll just be bold and be like, you know, you would be so pretty if you just took some of those out, if your hair was just black. She's like, I could help you dye it and I'm like, bro, I don't need help.
Jessica: I know you're not the only person who's gotten those comments because I've gotten them too and I've talked to a couple of people now and they've also gotten them so what kind of advice would you have for our listener who is having a hard time struggling maybe with their parents and doesn't have quite the same sense of self?
Sammie gives advice to those who are struggling with their parents and doesn’t have the same sense of self
Sammie: I would say, you know, it's going to work out, it's going to be okay, because like my parents threatened to throw me out. Anytime I got a new tattoo or piercing and they would be like, how much did it cost? My parents are very funny with money. They would be like, how much does that cost? How much does this cost? How much does that cost? Because I was going to school, living rent-free and stuff and I'm like, this is none of your business. I also work 40 hours a week. A lot of do what I want, but I would just say it's gonna be okay, if you're really scared, if you get a body modification and, someone doesn't take it too well, I know you spent money on it, but you can always take it out. Things get worse before they get better, and the thing is, you can always get piercings, whenever. Don't put yourself in that situation but you know, also like, don't be afraid to be yourself. I waited so long and 18 does not sound that long, but like I really waited so long to look I wanted to look and anytime I get a body modification, I just think, that part of myself is even just so much better. It really brings yourself confidence so right now I don't have my vertical labret. It just wasn't working out so I have to wait to get that redone and I feel like a toe. It's so funny how things that are there every day and then it fell off during my sleep and it closed up so I know. It hurts you kind of deal but I would just say